Weight loss secrets…*puh-leeze*

This is going to be a venting post.  Is anyone else sick of those ads that say that found the “secret” to weight loss and the “key” to staying thin???

Here’s the real key:  eat less, work out more, or do both.

That’s the secret!  Hard work, discipline, determination, and making good choices!!!  This is why I LOVE weight watchers because it helps you do these things in a supportive environment (if you go to the meetings, which I would suggest) and keeps you accountable.  Life happens, things aren’t always cookie cutter or perfect.  But this is possible, weight loss is possible, but it takes US doing OUR part to make good, healthy decisions and choices and putting the work in to reach our health goals.

Sometimes that means counseling, or therapy; sometimes that means seeing a pastor or other clergy member to help work out past issues that drive us to eat emotionally or impulsively.  Lets be real, we ALL have some issues that drive us to use food as a blanket or a way to assuage our pain.

This journey is one of complete wholeness.  Physically, mentally, and spiritually.  We have to win the battle in our minds before we win it in our bodies!!!

Ok, that is all :p  <3 ya’ll!!

Are you on a DIET???

“Hey, you want a cookie?  I made them last night!”

“No, thanks though.”

“What, you’re on a diet?”

Has anyone else ever been in this awkward exchange, where someone questions you about your eating habits changing in such an accusatory tone it almost makes you want to reply, “Who?  ME???  I’m not on a diet!” when in fact you are?

I’m sitting around a board table with a meeting about to start and this very thing happens.  Our boss brings in doughnuts, he plops them right in front of me and says, “You get the first one!”  Why can’t I politely decline a sugar-filled dough ball without a barrage of questions and side glances!!??

The truth is, everyone wants to look amazing and fit and then pretend it just *happened* overnight.  People closet diet, workout in secret, meal prep and plan and say they “threw something together this morning”, so in a few months they can walk in looking lept (slang for skinny :p)  and then claim that they weren’t even trying.  *insert sigh of exasperation here*.

And why?  Because losing weight is HARD!  It’s a struggle!  And no one wants to admit their own personal challenge with weight because it makes you vulnerable.  In our society we shame those larger than us and mock our plus sized queens and demonize putting on baby weight or those winter pounds.  When secretly its something most of us have to deal with on a daily basis.

Well, guess what?  NO! YES.  I’M NOT ON A DIET!!! *sigh of relief*  And please don’t get this confused with, “I’m changing my habits to eat healthier.”  That’s not what I mean.  I mean I am purposefully changing my eating habits from my normal routine in a healthy restrictive way with the intent purpose of losing a significant amount of weight.  And after my two week stretch, I will transition to maintaining some of my “diet” eating choices and also allowing myself to eat less healthy items in moderation as I try *again* to choose a healthier eating lifestyle.

Please share your journey here if you would like with non-judegemental people who share in your…well…our…struggle to be a better us!! :)

It’s My Responsibility

So i was having a conversation with one of my BFFs @livelovedlost and I was telling her that I was very upset that people (my friends, my family, my boyfriend at the time) didn’t tell me that I was gaining weight or had gained an enormous amount of weight.  She told me that you can’t just tell people that they’ve gained weight because the response would not be favorable.   I asked her in the future, if I start gaining weight to tell me.  While it isn’t pleasant to hear, I think it’s is needed and warranted.

After I worked out and was in the shower I was thinking back to that conversation.  I thought to myself, it was no ones responsibility to tell me that I had gained weight.  It was my own responsibility to look in the mirror and see myself.  I have to be honest and admit that I never looked at myself in mirror in a way to gauge how much weight I had actually gained until I was over 100 lbs heavier.  All I remember is that my clothes stopped fitting.  That was my responsibility at that point to take action on what i wanted needed to do.  It would be nice to have friends, like I have now, who were supportive, but it definitely isn’t anyone else responsibility.

I’m so thankful for this adventure that my friends and I have decided to start!  There definitely have been setbacks, but there has also been many victories for myself which motivates me even more.  I know that moving across the country, ending a relationship, going back to school, and raising my daughter literally on my own had to happen for me to end up in the place that I am right now.  I am a huge believer of fate, kismet  karma, or whatever you want to call it.  I everything had to align in the way it did for me to be ready and open to  this and take it so seriously.

Do you have supportive people encouraging you to live better?  How did you know you were ready for a change?

Excuses, Excuses – Follow Up

Ok, so in my last post, Excuses, Excuses, I said I was going to make better eating decisions even though it was test week and my period was about to start.  How did I do you ask?  Not so good.  Horrible.  It’s not just enough to say, “Ok, I ate terribly, whatever, I’ll do better next time.”  Yes, it’s true that you have to exercise self-control at all times and make healthy decisions regardless of circumstance.  But if you never address the underlying issue, you will never overcome overeating/binging etc.  People rarely overeat or under-eat just for funsies.  There is always something else going on, and that something else needs to be dealt with!

So what is it for me?  Well, as I said, I was about to start my period.  For the longest I have feared that I have Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD).  Besides the depressed mood and labile affect, there is also a component of “Marked change in appetite, overeating, or specific food cravings” according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR).  So that is what I need to deal with.  I already saw my doctor and will be starting OCPs.  I’m also going to do thought replacement and when I have these urges and cravings (it gets bad sometimes ya’ll!) I will distract myself with another activity and keep bad food out of my apartment and replace them with fruits and vegetables.  I will also make better efforts to pack my lunch so I don’t have to grab fast food while I’m away from home.

It’s so important to not make this about food, but about overall mental, physical, and spiritual health.  Slowly but surely, we’ll get there🙂

❤ Rhea

Emotional Eating

I have a problem with emotional eating.

There I said it.  I admitted it.  I’ve been in a funk for the past few days and at first I wasn’t understanding why.  In the last 11 years I’ve never forgotten February 14th.  Not for Valentines day, but that is the day I lost my grandmother in 2001.  My grandma and I were really close and I get emotional every year when I think about what i wish she was able to see me accomplish and share with me.

Yesterday, I got a call that my daughter was finally accepted into an early head start program that I have been trying to get her into  and I had so  much to do that I completely forgot about yesterday.  So I’ve been  on a 3 day binge eating horribly.  I feel guilty and i know I need to get it back together

I can make a ton of excuses about this and not do anything about it….but I’m not going to.  Excuses are excuses and they do not excuse the fact that I have not stuck to the commitment i was making to myself.  Something will always happen in life to make me upset or disappointed or sad….that is not an excuse to overeat and eat like a pig.  So I will be getting back together….thanks to everyone that has shown encouragement  I appreciate it.

xoxo

Excuses, excuses!

So I’ve noticed I often have this conversation with myself: “I’m post call, I can eat whatever I want.  I’ve been awake for 35 straight hours!”  or “It’s exam week, I can eat whatever I want”  or “I’m on my period, I can eat whatever I want!”.  And you know what ends up happening?!?!?  I end up making terrible decisions regarding what I put in my body and half the time every time I end up feeling sick!  I never noticed how bad it was until today.  I was on call and at the hospital for about 27 hours, and the whole time I ate crappy!  Then I left, and kept eating crappy!  Now that I’m logging everything on myfitnesspal, I can see just how crappy it was.  Lemme tell you, it’s so bad!!!!  

NO MORE EXCUSES!!!!

I’m committing today to eat healthier and make better decisions no matter what!!!  Just because I’m post-call or on my period or have a test coming up doesn’t mean I get to abuse my body!  Seeing as I have a test coming up next week, we’ll see just how committed I am to this!  I’ll post after my test and let you know how this new commitment went!!😀

❤ Rhea